The Power Of Intuition

By Andrew Appel

“The problems of the world will not be solved at the same level of thinking that created them.”
~ Albert Einstein

brainOf all of Einstein’s famous quotes, this is one of my favorites. Coming from arguably one of the smartest people in the world, I think it takes great courage to admit that there are certain limitations to thinking, logic and all the other gifts our minds have to offer.

Personally, I find it very hard to reconcile the continued sufferings of the world with the ongoing material improvements and achievements of the last few centuries. Despite these achievements, the problems we face today seem in many ways more difficult and challenging than they did even a decade ago. Thanks to the power of the Internet, there isn’t anything we can’t find or acquire within the click of an instant, and yet I don’t know too many people who would honestly say that any of this has made us any happier or more fulfilled—perhaps even less so.

If it is in fact true that the problems of the world can’t be solved at the level of thinking that created them, then where are we to turn? As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize that there are actually two voices operating inside of me, often giving me very different messages. The first is that of my mind, which is ever, if perhaps even too present and it continues to help me navigate my way through this challenging world. But the second is a bit of a quieter voice, also ever present, and patiently waiting for me to hear, should I find the time to listen beyond the loud and incessant chattering of my mind.

At first, our intuitive voice often isn’t so easy to hear. We weren’t taught in school how to hear it, or for that matter, even to listen to it at all.

For me, this voice seems to localize somewhere between my solar plexus and my stomach, or more simply stated, between my heart and my gut. I believe this to be the voice of my intuition. At first, our intuitive voice often isn’t so easy to hear. We weren’t taught in school how to hear it, or for that matter, even to listen to it at all. But I do believe that this is perhaps where the problems created by the mind might be solved. Our intuition often scares our mind, as its messages can be non-linear and illogical. But my sense is that it very well may be the compass that can bring us back into alignment with a deeper intelligence and knowing that is much greater than that of our ego based limited minds.

How to Access Our Intuition

There is a very simple yet powerful exercise we teach at our consulting firm to help people better access their intuition. Let’s say you are torn between two options, say A and B, and truly don’t know what to do. Option A has its pros and cons, but so does option B, making it hard to know how to proceed. Perhaps you’ve been going back and forth for some time now between the two, seemingly caught in no man’s land.

womanarmupWhat we would recommend is this. Take a few moments to calm yourself down—and quiet your mind as much as possible. Then either ask yourself, or have a friend ask you, in the most simple and direct way possible—is it option A or option B? You will need to be as aware and honest with yourself as you possibly can—in order to hear the answer that comes first—usually in a millisecond—if not sooner. The intuition usually knows instantly. Our challenge is to be quiet, centered and aware enough to hear it.

Usually, after this millisecond, most intuitive answers are followed by a “but…” containing all sorts of reasons why you shouldn’t listen to your gut instinct. Our advice: don’t listen to anything that follows the “but…” This is just your mind trying to talk you out of what you intuitively know to be true.

Sometimes answers are not easy to come by, and if this is the case, take your dilemma into your meditations, and keep asking yourself questions until the right direction becomes clear. If unsure, try to wait until you are. There is no rush. Our minds tend to often move much faster than our intuitions are wanting or willing to go, and so learning to slow down can often be an essential part of the process. As overrated as thinking can be sometimes, perhaps silence and stillness are too often underrated.

Listening to our intuition often takes a great deal of courage and faith, as it can involve a dramatic departure from the messages and thinking mechanisms we’ve been taught to use since the earliest of ages. But my sense is that in time and with practice, learning to access and follow our intuitions may in fact be where we find many, if not most of the solutions to so many of the personal and collective problems we face.

- Andrew Appel is the Creative Director for Beyond Success, a coaching and consulting firm that blends holistic and socially responsible ideas with the world of business and wealth management. For more information, please visit www.BeyondSuccessConsulting.com.

13 Steps To Teach Kids Love – The Power Of Positive Parenting

By Diane Lang

familyrunKids have so much to teach us, so much we forget as reality takes over. We need to learn how to love everything around us: life, earth, others, etc. Kids know how to forgive, release and let go. So positive parenting isn’t about teaching how to love, it’s teaching kids to hold onto their love and reminding them how great life is. Kids are born with the knowledge of love not fear! As parents we need to remind them of this. Here are 13 tips to teach kids love through positive parenting:

1. Teach kids through example. Be the example, the role model, the mentor. Show the personality traits you want your kids to have. If you show kids love, warmth, kindness, patience and empathy, you will get it in return.

2. Teach them to want not to need. Teaching love is to remind kids they don’t need to be attached to any material objects and to be grateful for what they have.

3. Discipline is love. It shows your child you care.

4. Show love by being honest. It’s okay to say I don’t know. Be honest, clear, simple and to the point.

5. Show loyalty through actions. Make sure to give daily hugs, kisses, pats on the shoulder, hold hands, etc. Show love to your spouse; let your kids know there is a lot of love in the family.

6. Show kids love through praise. Let them know how proud of them you are with praise. Praise your child’s efforts so they stay motivated and don’t give up.

7. Show them love through listening. Be an active listener: use eye contact, don’t interrupt, show your listening with nods of the head, non verbal gestures, summarize what you just heard and ask questions.

8. Show your empathy by being an empathetic listener. Even if you don’t understand why your kids are upset, be empathetic. Put yourself in their shoes. Imagine how they must feel. Respond with empathy.

9. Show love through communication. Ask how they are doing, what kind of day they had, how was school? Ask questions that involve more than a yes or no answer and be a great active, empathetic listener when communicating with children.

momdaugtherbike10. Teach kids to remain their authentic self and share their inner joy and light. We need to teach kids to hold onto their lightness.

11. Teach kids to be compassionate with random acts of kindness. Get kids involved in volunteering at an early age. When kids perform random acts of kindness they feel more respect for themselves and get a boost of happiness.

12. Teach your kids to love healthy foods by eating meals together. Let your kids be involved in the process. They can help make the menu, help with food shopping and even cooking. The more involved they are, the more likely they are to eat healthy and enjoy it. Teach kids to respect their body which is their true home.

13. Teach kids that mistakes are good. Mistakes are teachable moments that move us forward into a better path.

- Diane Lang – Positive Living Expert and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized author, educator, speaker, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living. Lang offers expertise in multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct professor at Montclair State University and Dover Business College.

Bulk Supermarkets And Weight Gain?

Funny, many people always claim how they gain weight around the holidays. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s always seem to get a bad rap with weight gain. Then, of course, we go to the other extreme, as our New Year’s resolution most likely begins with how we plan on losing weight. Is there hypocrisy in this? So, this got me thinking. Just because it is a holiday, does that mean we can eat more than normal, because it is a special occasion?

So, I started to wonder about weight gain, and reasons why we may eat more. Last week, I received a free two month trial to one of our local bulk supermarkets…you know, the ones where you buy a box of cookies, it is the size of your car, sent directly to you from Willy Wonka himself. So, I went shopping yesterday, and bought some food supplies, which were in large quantity. When I got home, I started to snack a little on the food. My thoughts were, I have so much of it, let me try a few things. This lead me to wonder, does buying bulk foods at these super, huge, ginormous, extra large food markets promote eating? Yes, I know, it comes down to will power, but now I am wondering. What are your thoughts?

Happy Holidays! Please tell your friends about my new book, Keeping Kids Fit, a great present for the holidays.

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