By Diane Lang
On the other hand, I’m not a big fan of wrinkles, gray hair and all the new body aches and pain that comes with age.
I truly believe that midlife is a transformation. It’s a time you start searching for more and have cravings for change. You start questioning your everyday life.
- Is this all there is?
- What’s my true identity and my purpose for being here?
- What happens when I die? (this is a time for questioning of mortality as well as our life)
So, yes, you will go through some big changes during midlife. Is that bad?
Absolutely not. When we hit midlife, we start looking forward to changes. Actually, I will go a step further and be really truthful. We want change and we look forward to making them. Fear loses some of its grip. We stop caring what others think and care more about our own feelings.
We lose patience with drama and start searching for friends that fit our new interests and goals. We realize our friends mirror who we are as people. So, if you’re not sure who you are? Just look around at your closest friends/family and you can get a clear picture of who you are.
Finally, we realize that self care is important. Unfortunately, we had to wait untill we had those aches, pains and body changes but no matter what, we wake up to self-care.
- For this April make yourself a priority and set up a to-do list of all the self-care activities you want to do.
- Do an emotional detox and lose the “toxic” people which will allow room for more positive people.
- Set up a long term goal and the short term goals that will get you there. Keep the goals and time frame realistic and attainable. Set up a positive reinforcement schedule also. If you accomplish a goal of course, you should praise and reward yourself!
- Realize and accept you’re in midlife and change is near. Make changes that are true to who you are deep inside. Changes that fit your personality. Changes that make you feel good and are in-line with your intentions.
- Diane Lang is a Positive Living Expert and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, author, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct professor at Montclair State University.